halle berry quotes on dating - Dating closeted

I'm fine with him not being out and would NEVER do anything to jeopardize that.Is he just saying he doesn't want anything serious because he doesn't want to be outed or am I just wasting my time on the "relationship"? What's playing out in your "relationship" right now is fairly common for mixed couples where one gay is out and the other is just seeing a crack in the closet door.The problem is, I soon realized that Pete was still acting like a married man who was sneaking around on the side.

I say "boy" not because we were teenagers breaking curfew. Which brings me to the catch (and back to the sneaking around): Like Will Lexington (above), the rising country star Chris Carmack plays on the ABC TV series , Shane was in the closet, chronologically a man but a boy to the bone.

Shane* and I were grown men, consenting adults who had been seeing each other for several months. Nobody aside from one or two close friends knew he was gay, and for the foreseeable future, he was intent on keeping it that way.

So it was extra bizarre when I ended up dating a closet case several years ago.

He was tall, attractive, and nice, though his background proved to be something way beyond what you’d find in run-of-the-mill boyfriend material.

Pete didn’t consider himself bisexual, but rather someone who’d taken a long time to garner the courage to break out of his ill-advised married life (five years before I met him) and accept who he is—a gay man.

That was wonderful (though the wife and offspring weren’t speaking to him anymore, feeling deeply betrayed).

Whenever you start to date someone and are excited about your new romance, you want to share it with the world. But if your partner is closeted, you can’t do that.

The secretive nature may seem exciting at first, but will eventually grow into something constraining.

I touched upon this conflict earlier in a post about the difficulty of LGBTQ Christian dating.

I even gave it a fancy name: The Khalaf Self-Disclosure Discrepancy Theorem.

-JWell J, I concur: What better place to turn for all of your gay lifestyle needs than here at Gay Life on About.com? What seems like inconsistency on his part is really a manifestation of the mixed feelings he has running a muck in his head.

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